There is an old adage that many of us applied during a painful moment with someone that we once trusted. Do you remember enjoying a familiar relationship with someone and then they turned on you? You were blindsided. It was a surprise. You did not see it coming and you were left speechless.

Not only did they abandon you but they hurt you for their advantage. Information that was confidential, they used it in order to better posture their position, satisfy a craving of theirs or got you out of their way for a promotion, advancement for a relative or friend of theirs.

A last minute farewell gathering was thrown together. Your betrayer was there. With a phony choking in their voice, “I love you. I will miss you.” It was hard for you to hear good words used to cover up very bad motives. Others heard and thought good thoughts of them, but you knew the truth. Graciously, you were polite.

You learned an important lesson in life. Watch out for those who are busybodies, those who are nosey and think that they are doing something good by intruding into your life. They may have even quickly justified their hurtful actions dismissively, “I didn’t want to hurt you but I did what I thought was right.”

Paul writes to the Thessalonian believers about brotherly love. While he announces the subject, he admits that he does not need to teach them about it. The reason is that God has taught them about love.

The love that God taught these Christians is agape love while it was brotherly love that Paul identified as the love that he did need to write to them. Some may suggest that the great love was learned therefore the lesser love was unnecessary. Or it may be suggested that brotherly love is included in agape love. Advanced love learned from God directly will naturally demonstrate itself in loyalty, devotion and goodness.

This is one of those fascinating passages where the two kinds of love are really from the same source. They are not to be made so distinct that one is better or higher than the other. Here they are clearly related, one bigger and included in itself.

Anyone in the region of Macedonia knew of the reputation of the Thessalonian believers. They loved others in the name of Jesus. When people were in need this body of Christians did not just talk, they acted. They showed the love of Christ and Paul commended them for it.

This is an occasion where what was being done was very good and the only direction for the apostle to take was to encourage them to keep it up and to do it more and more. These Christians had learned their lesson; it was proven in their performance. They did not just brag about credentials on the wall, rather they demonstrated what they had learned.

When love is displayed it encourages others. The best way to improve it is not just to do the same but do more of the same. More love is all about living a quiet life.

The life that can give true love is a quiet life, meaning a life that is restful. This is not an admonition against talkativeness. The sense of the instruction is undisturbed, settle or not noisy.

Celebration or joyous exaltation was not what the apostle was trying to curtail. Rather it was anxiety, a frantic spirit and certainly the panic that accompanies worrisome concerns.

If there is to be peace in the life of someone who is captivated by true love, then, they will also mind their own business. Nosey busy bodies are the antithesis of true love. Meddling in the lives of others is not love.

Do you remember the person who was anxious about the life of someone else? They were convinced that they had the prerogative to reach in and tell someone else how to parent their child, run their business, and manage their family, how to behave in church, what music all Christians should sing and even who their friends should be.

True love is measured by its reputation. What are people saying? Do others find our life of love attractive, desirable or appealing?

Love is the hallmark of the Christian faith. Help others. Do not hurt them.

When others are blessed by your love, then you are on the right track. Keep doing that and do it more and more. God will impress in your spirit what is beneficial for others.

You will know it when your life is at rest. Any curiosity that you have about the lives of others is something that you keep in check. Mind you own business. Walk properly in front of others and live reliant only upon the Lord and what He has given you to live responsibly.

LAPP (Life Application): Help someone this week. Do it in the name of Jesus out of the love that He has already given to you. Have you hurt someone by being a busybody? Seek God’s forgiveness and do something to right your wrong.